Facebook addiction ? At 31, Jean , accountant, spends more than two hours a day on Facebook. “I update my status, comments on my friends wall, publishes the latest pictures of my son … I am literally addicted! ” What for ? First, because the designers do everything to Facebook! As explained Fanny Georges, researcher at CNRS, “the interface is made so that it is not the information
personal user that are put forward, what he likes, for example, but the history of its manifestations on the site: it has just put online, with whom he is now friends, etc. “. The device is designed so that the “presence of signs” emitted by Benjamin are frequent and valued. A temporality that grows not picking …
Fill an inner void
For the psychiatrist and psychoanalyst Serge Tisseron, “the underlying desires on these activities have always lived human beings, desire that others do not forget us, for example.” Post his mood is approaching once sent a few words on a postcard. “The danger occurs only when the reality appears to us too frustrating, says the analyst. And we seek to fill this dissatisfaction in not imaginary world, but virtual. “Thomas Gaon, clinical psychologist and co-founder of OMNSH, confirms:” As in any process of addiction, the risk occurs when we load the outside to fill an inner void. “Since the use of Facebook is no longer a means among others to get recognition and valorisation, but the only way, there is less consumption that poor consumption.
Find emotional security
Facebook reassures, “promotes the feeling of being socially integrated, says Fanny Georges. The idea is to always be linked with others, even offline. “Our “friends” can come at any time we “see.” But why use Facebook to satisfy this need to belong? “Shy in real life, some feel less vulnerable on the Net, meets Thomas Gaon. Others, already very extroverted and continue their parade. “
Forge a personality
According to the psychologist, “Facebook is at once a self-staging to others, a chance to say at all times” I exist! “, But also a place where everyone can evaluate, compare. And meet the existential questions: “Who am I? What is my place? “” The network is involved in the construction of identity, and responds to a need to be reassured about who we are in a time when identity markers are fragile.
How to cope to facebook ?
- Moderate Personal information
According to Serge Tisseron, “the disclosure of highly personal information and privacy elements can be risky.” Including the right to have the feeling of never say enough! The more we tell our daily lives, the more we feel the need to update this information … so spending time on the network.
- Create the non-virtual link on Facebook
“Since Facebook allows to have friends, why not see them more often? asks Thomas Gaon. Invitations – concert, theater, exhibition – are sent to users, why not move there? To temper its virtual consumption, nothing better than finding, in reality, satisfaction items. ”
- Encourage moments of introspection
“If self-representation online complement each other’s identity, it does not replace it, says Fanny Georges. Build internally necessarily involves moments of solitude and introspection. »All comments posted on our profi le and if we start with refl ect there by ourselves, alone? This work can also go through “real” readings of writers or philosophers – often more rewarding than the messages of our “friends”.
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