Happy people? Happiness still has secrets? The hypothesis is unlikely as the theme is addressed continuously through new studies or books that explain how come catch in our nets or, conversely, prevent that this quest has everything from hunting dahu. But in the ocean of publications, two sources still refer. The first is the study that two researchers in psychology, Shigehiro Oishi and Edward Diener, father of the research partner of positive psychology, Martin Seligman, have conducted in 2007 on the theme of the pursuit of happiness. In total, ten thousand people were interviewed in forty-eight countries. Conclusion: being happy is the priority aspiration, far ahead find the meaning of life, get rich or make paradise. The second source is a synthesis of all the research and studies on positive psychology. For two years, this collection of “things that make people happy” circulates everywhere, to the point that it has become a bible of spurious happiness. Among the advice as it contains assertions, we selected seven fundamentals, we have chosen to engage in critical thinking psychoanalyst Jean-Michel Hirt.
1. They are surrounded by happy people.
Happiness is contagious. Those who are surrounded by happy people have a maximum opportunity to become happy in their turn and stay.
The comment of Jean-Michel Hirt.
There’s something about the evidence in this finding. As if to say that our mood is better on a beautiful day fresh and sunny summer, when you’re in good company.
2. They cultivate resilience.
Happy people know how to bounce back from a test and do not allow themselves locked into depression.
“First, realize that there is in us the forces that pull us down, and that others are like a call to the air, towards the light. It is encouraging seconds, taking care of them we can perhaps more easily lift us a test. The mistake would be to seek to recover quickly without going through a questioning of what made us fall. We now know that depression is also a period psychic reorganization, internal research and that this withdrawal time promotes the possibility of continuing his route otherwise. This is also a way of trying to be happier. “
3. They act to be happy.
Happy people do not expect happiness. They are active in the search and the experimentation of all that can increase their feeling of bliss.
“Choose the second option: ask ourselves how we might feel happier. This may involve the identification of our strengths (our inner brakes) and external obstacles and by listening carefully to the way our desire is expressed. In any case, try to be happy always returns to develop a form of attention and affection for himself that then extends to others. “
4. They are in the gift.
All happy people use part of their time to volunteer, to listen, to help those around them in need.
“Take care of yourself by listening to their needs, their wants and their expectations and try to meet with its measurement and personally gives the opportunity to practice altruism respectful of each other and beneficial for himself. A “donor” frustrated, or has a poor self-image, will hardly respect the otherness of the one he gives and thoroughly enjoy the gift. Openness to others is rewarding for both parties when it was first opened to himself. “
5. They see the bright side.
Optimism is a prerequisite for happiness. Unlike the pessimists, optimists think that after the rain always comes the good weather. And they trust their resources to turn things to their advantage.
“Only work on oneself can help change the interior layout, revise his beliefs and not be locked into a negative view of self, others and life. This involves the search for events, images related to childhood which contributed to a pessimistic and anxious vision of life. It can also be useful to remember the hardships overcome and successes. This helps to not feel helpless in the face of difficulties. “
6. They know unplug.
Happy people planning cuts to not get overwhelmed by stress or overwhelmed by others.
“This return to oneself can be done in different ways. Through meditation, daydreaming, the practice of an art, by listening to his bodily sensations, emotions, thoughts. The key is not so much to run after the holidays or entertainment but to provide regular opportunities to fully inhabit his being, not to live too long out of oneself.
7. They open to spirituality
Pray, meditate, engage in spiritual rituals are practices that have positive effects on mental health. The values in religions contribute to the feeling of happiness.
“Listening to oneself and the other, being attentive to the poetry of the words, without dwelling on the meaning. Hear what comes from itself in terms of desire, ideal, singularity, even if it’s disturbing for himself. Hear smiling, feeling in us the spectacle of nature, a work of art, reading … This allows us to leave our cells to move from a functional intelligence to intelligence of the whole being. This self-expansion constitutes the happiness of being. “